The great post you don’t have to spend a lot of money at The Learning Umbrella got me thinking about toys. My kids don’t have a lot of toys. They have a lot fewer than most of their friends. But they still have too many! They simply don’t play with their toys.
Ani rarely played with toys when she was little and almost never does now. Cameron never played with toys. He always had Ani. They are 19 1/2 months apart and the best of friends. Fritz is a child who likes to play with toys. I remember playing with toys all the time as a kid. I suspect Fritz will be like me. At barely 3 months old he enjoys putting every toy he can get his hands on into his mouth. He gets very, very happy when we make his blue dog play the lullaby or the duck toy play Ernie’s Rubber Duckie song. That duck was already well used when it came to us in a box of hand-me-downs from my nephew Erik. Erik is a child who loves to play with toys. He is three and will spend hours playing with toys. My two big kids just aren’t that type of kid.
My two big kids spend hours in the world of imagination inspired by a book we’ve read or a TV show we downloaded from iTunes. The fairy scarves I made for Ani one Christmas are very well used, especially by Cameron. A golf ball that was found during a walk once is a treasured toy. Arts and crafts supplies are consumed rapidly. But regular toys are largely ignored by them. Last night they spent 30 minutes taking turns sitting on the upside down big plastic tote we use to bring the clean diapers upstairs while the other laid on his or her back kicking the tote across the floor. They had a great time. We taught the kids to play Rock-Paper-Scissors last night. So much fun for them and nothing but your owns hands needed.
Yet, my older two children insist they need more toys. We remind them they don’t play with the toys they have. They say they don’t have the “right” toys. When asked what the right toys are they have no answer. The reality is they don’t need toys to have fun, but, somehow, they know they are “supposed” to have toys.
I’ve often threatened to get rid of everything I refer to as “plastic crap” and I am getting very close to following through on that. I really prefer wooden or cloth toys. I went on eBay last night to see what types of wooden or cloth toys there were and I fell in love with various auctions of knitted food. They are adorable. All are from the UK. Now, the wooden food we have is one toy that does get played with so I daresay the knitted food would be, too. Ani’s quite interested in getting some of those.
Cameron is beginning to see he doesn’t need to play with things sold as toys. Jamie has gotten some pallets and taken them apart and now there is quite a little wood pile. Cameron counts it a good day if he has spent time hammering wood together. Sometimes he works on making shapes or projects, other times it is just random hammering. No matter what he is doing it makes him very happy and the best part is the total cost is the nails. Not a big expense for hours of enjoyment.
Christmas is coming and my children will not be getting the latest “must have” toys. They don’t even know what the “must have” toys are. Between homeschooling and not having a TV they don’t see the ads that would tell them what they want. Really, my kids won’t be getting toys at all. Since we have always planned to have at least 4 kids, we started out limiting Christmas to three things each. A Christmas ornament (made by me), a personalized book, and something else. This year the something else is a scrapbook kit for Ani, a science kit for Cameron, and a texture ball for Fritz. All of those are put together or made by me and geared toward their abilities (for example, most of the science experiments Cameron can do on his own).
I’ve come to the conclusion that even for kids who like to play with toys, it is very possible to have too many. As a child I thought I had a lot of toys, but looking back I didn’t really. I had my Little People and a couple dolls and some stuffed animals and then various odds and ends. I spent hours playing with those dolls and those Little People. It was all I needed. A few well-loved, well-played with toys (even if they are not sold as toys) is all any kid truly needs.