It’s always all about the mom
September 11th, 2007
I recently read this article about why having a homebirth is bad and giving birth in the hospital is good (warning: if you support homebirth, this article may make you turn funny colors). The whole article was annoying, but the part that really rubbed me the wrong way is the paragraph that says homebirth isn’t about the baby. See, apparently these crazy moms are giving birth at home in order to prove a point and make a political statement.
Have a drug free birth? Mom’s trying to look better than everyone else. Have a homebirth? Mom’s trying to prove a point at the peril of her unborn child. Co-sleep? Mom is risking baby’s life to have them stay close to her. Don’t vaccinate? Mom can’t handle hearing the baby cry. Breastfeed past a year? Mom gets some twisted pleasure from it. Homeschool? Mom can’t let her kids grow up and is stunting their social growth.
That’s how it always is, isn’t it? If you make a choice outside of the mainstream then you must be trying to prove a point. It’s always all about the mom and what the mom wants. I run into that sentiment often. It couldn’t possibly be that the choices I make for my family are based on research, prayer, and deep pondering. I know many of our choices are not the same as others would make and that’s okay. What’s right for us isn’t necessarily right for you. Just don’t assume that because your choice is the typical one that my choice is wrong.
I have to say, that article made me laugh. Not because I agree in any way, but it is just so absurd that I HAVE to laugh. The author quotes statistics, but there are so many he’s ignored or left out that he ends up looking stupid, to me. I’m sorry you have to face this kind of ignorance for your choices. Or that we all do. Heck, I do most of the “typical” things, and I still get raised eyebrows and poo-pooed because I wear my son and don’t put shoes on him.
For what it’s worth, I don’t make a lot of the choices you do, but I think you and Jamie are awesome parents with great kids.
Amen.
We are so further evolved than most - lol! Here’s to us not having to bang our heads against the wall!
I think my head just exploded. I did at least half those things or more.
The only thing I want as a mom is to raise my kids to the best of *my* ability.
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